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BLOLIDAYS #2 – 7 Summer Activities

Hello and welcome to the second Blolidays post of the series! We’re two weeks into the holidays now, and about to start the third week. If you’ve got to the point where you and your friends want to meet up, but have zero clue what to do, then this post should help! I’ll put together some of the ideas my friends and I have for days out (or in) and hopefully you’ll take some inspiration!

Theme Parks

While it does involve spending money, riding rollercoasters is such a fun way to hang out with friends! One of my favourites is Blackpool Pleasure Beach, but Alton Towers comes at a close second! It’s important to consider when you’re going; you wouldn’t want to go when it’s raining (the rides might be closed) but on super hot days, the queues are ridiculously long! Settle for a happy medium!

Country Park Walks

For a free outing, you could take your friends out to the countryside. It could be a woods, or a park near where you live. Dogs are a lot of fun to bring along, and if any of your friends are aspiring photographers, it’s a great opportunity to snap some shots of the natural world! And there’s no money involved – Bonus!

Stationery Shopping

Maybe the new school year is the last thing you want to be thinking about in your time off, and if so, this one probably isn’t for you. For any of my fellow dorky friends who love having new notepads, stacks of sticky notes, freshly sharpened pencils, and rulers that are still in good shape, this one is for you! Take a trip out into town and stock up on everything you need for the 2017/2018 school year!

Movie and Takeaway Day

Who doesn’t love a good movie? I know my friends will definitely be heading over to Regina’s house at some point and using Netflix probably all day… We might even order a sneaky Domino’s takeaway – the chocolate brownies are to die for.

Cards Against Humanity

If you’ve never played Cards Against Humanity, or heard of it – let me enlighten you. In a nutshell, you have white cards and black cards: the black cards have either a question or a sentence with blank spaces, and the white cards have the answers. Each player is given ten white cards, and has to fill in the blanks on a black card, with their own white cards. Some of them get super offensive, dirty, rude and just in general, ridiculously funny. It’s bound to leave you in heaps of giggles, and is a great way to pass a rainy day!


Any cookery prodigies in your friendship group? You could head over to their house with a few others (the more the merrier) and have a day of baking cakes, pies, muffins, and whatever else your stomach is grumbling for. Feast!

Go to the Beach

It’s summer! When the weather gets hotter and the sun makes an appearance, grab your towels and head down to the seaside! Grab an ice-cream or a cone of fish and chips and press play on your beach vibes playlist, or splash around in the water if you’re feeling adventurous!

And those are some of the things I plan to do this holidays! Let me know what you and your friends will be getting up to! 😀



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People Need Space


I’m Just Average Teen Me. Following Friday’s situation (to say the least), I’ve been anxious and nervous all weekend. I still have shaky knees when I walk down stairs, and I’ve been feeling sick at the thought of school on Monday… Clueless would be a good way to describe how I’m feeling about the whole thing: I don’t understand why Britt told them, and how on Earth I’m going to convince people I don’t without seeming overly defensive. :/

Anyways, that’s not what this post is about.

As soon as I got on the bus, I said on the group chat (Britt, Penny, Hayley and me) that I needed a break, and “see you on Monday.” That chat was a place where I could be totally myself, and not worry about what other people think, because they wouldn’t ever see it. Tables have turned and I’m not sure how I feel about it not being anywhere near as safe as I imagined it. Secrets get out, and I guess you could say it’s my fault for putting them in there in the first place.

Because of that, I’ve distanced myself from the chat, without a specific time I plan on being back; I don’t want to say something on there that ends up getting out again. Although I’ve muted the chat notifications, I still see the most recent message every time I go on to text Ashley. She’s been amazing with the whole dilemma, and promises to deny it if anyone finds out and asks. It’s probably good for you to know that even writing this is making me shake and shiver a little.

Usually, the messages are “JATM COME BACK” or “where the hell did Jatm go?”. If you ask me, I think it’s a slight invasion of privacy, when I quite clearly stated that I needed a break.

And that’s the main point of this post.

When people need a break from reality, don’t push them to come back. 

By prying, you might feel like you’re getting closer to that person, but  they’re stepping back further and further every time. Eventually, it’ll be harder for them to come back.

Space and time are vital to get your thoughts straight for some people, and disrespecting that, whether you realise it or not, could just add to the anxiety that they’re already feeling and force a distance between the two of you. Please, if there’s someone you know that has asked for space, just give it to them. Chances are, for them to have asked for space, they must really need it.

Think of it as a round-about – those spinny things in playgrounds? Maybe their round-about has gone spinning, and they’re getting dizzier and dizzier until they can’t think straight. The logical thing to do is to sit still, and relax. But if other people try getting onto that round-about while they’ve just started to get it under control, it’ll wobble, and it might even start spinning again. Don’t be the person that makes them lose that control again…

On that note, that’s the end of today’s post. I know, I posted yesterday, but I needed to get some thoughts out into the open, and it’s safe to say that it’s helped significantly. Thanks so much for reading; if you didn’t, I’d really have nobody to talk to about this ❤

Just Average Teen Me


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It Happened Again


I’m Just Average Teen Me. If you’re wondering what I mean by ‘it’, I mean a few things actually. First off: people betraying my trust, and second: panic attack. For my newer readers, I had a panic attack in October 2015, and since then it’d only been minor shake-ups. Well, today that changed. And I’m pretty freaking terrified to say the least.

I’ll take you through everything that’s happened today, so I can set the scene and let you know what caused it and whatnot.

Everything was completely fine until French, at about 12:00. To be specific, it got a whole lot better, because I ended up with 100% on a vocabulary test which is pretty cool. A (freaking annoying, I might add) guy in my French who sits across the classroom shouted my name, asking what I got. I told him. It was right then that today became the worst day this year, if not in the last two years.

“Britt told me who you like”

Obviously, my first thought was, ‘she would never’, so I said to him “She doesn’t even know.” You’ll probably know, that was a lie. She knows about Flynn. So, this guy proceeds to say that he knows, and then says “Do you want me to whisper across the classroom?” and I told him I’d rather he didn’t. He ignored.

Cupping his mouth, he lip-synced his name: first and last. Britt had told him, and I had no idea why. Of all the people to tell, he’s one of the worst. I said “I promise you, I don’t” and turned back around to my work, refusing to turn around again. Gradually, I could feel my whole face burning up, and I was completely freaking out on the inside. From there, I went into rebound chatty mode, where I talked insane amounts and about anything I possibly could to anyone I could. My knees were shaking and I was completely terrified, but I couldn’t show it.

Lunch time rolls on, and I went to find Britt and Hayley. The first actual sentence I said was “I’m going to kill you.” which may seem a little harsh, but I guess it was a little sarcastic. She played the ‘I don’t know what you’re talking about’ until I said the guy she told’s name – then she turned around and laughed. Laughed. 

Turns out, she told at least 5 other people. He came up in conversation in one of her lessons, and she told the people in her group. From there, she was talking about how “it doesn’t really matter”; “they don’t care” and “why do you care what they think anyway?”. I told her that it really wasn’t okay. As soon as they (Penny and Britt) found out Flynn even existed, I made them both swear to secrecy. Both of them have betrayed that, and it’s pretty safe to say that I’m trusting neither of them ever again.

As soon as I got off the bus, and began to walk home, I felt my breathing pick up, and by the time I got upstairs, into the bathroom and had a drink, I was more than convinced I was about to throw up. I wound up pacing around my bedroom (there’s only enough space for about three steps until reaching a wall or my bed). It was then that I realised I was having a panic attack. Tears were brewing at my eyes, all moisture in my mouth disappeared, my throat felt like it was closing, my whole body was shaking and shivering with cold sweats, my balance was pretty bad (although the pacing probably didn’t help it) and my stomach was still churning. It lasted about 15 minutes, which is shorter than the one in October, but the feeling of dread was just as bad – if not worse.

Distinctly,  remember saying “stop it” and “woman up” over and over, begging it to go away as I trembled, but it didn’t do much. I was biting my finger and gripping at my trouser leg. Babysitting my two-year-old brother while drinking excessive amounts of water helped to send it away, partly because I didn’t want him to see me cry.

I’ve just got off facetime with Ashley, who told me not to worry, although I’m pretty sure I have some reason to… I’m still terrified and I really don’t want to go back to school on Monday… Have you ever been in a similar situation?

BYE! 😀

Just Average Teen Me

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I Trusted You…


I’m Just Average Teen Me. You might remember a post I did a little over a month ago, called Trying to Trust, where I told you all about how I told my friends about a guy in my year that I maybe, kind of like a little bit. If you’ve got an even better memory, you’ll know that I codenamed him Flynn, probably because I freaking love Flynn Rider from Tangled. ❤

Before today, I hadn’t regretted telling them (Penny, Britt and Hayley) because if I hadn’t, I wouldn’t know that Hayley spends three hours a week sat next to him in Geography lessons, or the random times where he’s asked Penny for chewing gum, or that he jokingly put his arm around Britt at some point. Basically, all was going swell, and I’d made them swear not to tell anyone.

Today though, as you have probably predicted, something changed. As I said in the other post, I like to keep things to myself, and I rarely trust anyone with any secrets. And today I was reminded just why.

To set the scene, the canteen is open from about 8:15 for people who either want somewhere to sit, or need breakfast before school starts. Penny, Ashley, Rachel and myself were all sat at a four person table. Penny and Ashley on one side, Rachel and me on the other. It’s no secret that between us all, there are numerous inside jokes and ships between friendship groups and whatnot. On the WhatsApp group chat with me, Britt, Penny and Hayley, there’s a message of dream ships (couples, otps, pairings – whatever you want to call them) and Penny said that she wanted to show everyone.

Quickly remembering that on there, it said ‘Jatm and Flynn’, I told Penny to stop, and she copied the text into a note so she could delete the ‘Flynn’ from it, before showing Rachel and Ashley. However, she didn’t delete Britt and a girl she likes. As you can imagine, Rachel and Ashley were pretty shocked about Britt’s ship, and no matter how we tried to tell them it was a joke, they still didn’t buy it.

I’m not completely sure what happened, but Penny ended up back on the chat, and had the original message on her phone screen. I said something along the lines of “Oh my God, Penny, get off the chat!” but she just held it closer to her chest, and started moving it into view with her hand gestures. I panicked, and grabbed the phone, doing everything I could to hide the screen, but somehow, it wasn’t enough.

“WHO’S FLYNN?!” Ashley shouted, and Rachel chimed in, too.

At this point, I was definitely freaking out, but thankfully there are at least 6 different guys with the same name, so there was a pretty wide variety of options. Nonetheless, they guessed it was him, along with every other Flynn in my year. I refused to answer to any of them. What really confused me was: Why didn’t Penny get it off the screen?

At this point, I’m 90% sure that Rachel knows exactly who it is, and the rest, well, I’d say I’m about 70% sure they’ll figure it out pretty soon.

After pacing around my bedroom, my head filled with what ifs and how and why and what am I gonna do, I’ve decided that I can take a lesson away from this: to keep things I don’t want other people to know, purely to myself, because anyone can betray your trust.

It might sound really stupid that this is all over a crush, but I’m a very private person, and rarely share things like that, so when it gets out of where I wanted it, I kind of have an emotional break-down…

As of right now, I have the WhatsApp group chat muted. They’ve realised that I’ve been missing, and Penny has said that she knows I’m annoyed, and briefly said she’s sorry. If I’m being completely honest, it sounds like she’s trying to make it seem like it wasn’t all her fault (if you sk me, I’m pretty sure it was). I’m trying not to jump right in and say “it’s okay” because I always forgive people way too quickly, and make it seem like I can brush it off, when in reality I’m dying on the inside, not to mention, it really isn’t okay.

Have you been in a similar situation?

BYE! 😀

Just Average Teen Me

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My Responsibility


I’m Just Average Teen Me. If you’re slightly confused by the lacklustre title I’ve used today, don’t worry, all will become clear in just a few moments. I wanted to talk about something that I’d imagine a lot of you guys are dealing with too. Well, everyone has their responsibilities, right? But what are mine?

A month and a half into the 2016-2017 school year, I have an idea of what teachers I trust to get me to the levels I want, and what teachers I don’t.You might think I’m strange for trusting certain teachers, and not others, but I’ve seen the impact of having a good teacher compared to having a bad teacher firsthand.

My Geography teacher, for example. He’s a new teacher to the school, which obviously doesn’t make the situation any better, and on our first lesson, he straight up told us he wasn’t interested in getting A*, he just wanted us all to pass… As the ambitious and optimistic person I am, I haven’t trusted him since.

Britt however, has my Geography teacher from the last two years. He’s an amazing teacher, and would know that certain people aren’t just interested in passing. Turns out, she ended up with my English teacher from last year, too. Looks like Britt will be helping me with a lot of my revision!

I know a lot of people leave it up to their own teachers to get them the grades they want, but if that isn’t enough, then stuff’s got to be done. Especially with high predicted grades (kill me).

Are any of you guys in a similar situation?

BYE! 😀

Just Average Teen Me

P.S. I’ve developed a habit of ironically saying “oh snap” when things happen and I’m not too sure how to feel about that… 🙂

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Being Let Down Sucks


I’m Just Average Teen Me. I could say that I’ve gotten myself into a bit of a dilemma, but that would be a lie, since none of this is my fault. If you haven’t already guessed, today’s post won’t be as happy as mine normally are, but I’m really hoping you can give some advice in the comments!

Truthfully, I’m really not sure how to feel or what I’m feeling right now. I’d say it’s a mix of anger, disappointment and regret. I know, you want to know why I’m feeling this way, and I promise, I’ll get onto it – I just need to figure out how to word it all.

If you read Saturday’s post, you might remember that Britt was trying to persuade her parents to let her go on a school trip to Italy. Well, for almost a year now, we’ve been fantasising about how we’d take home the tiny shower gels, and stay up for hours talking about things that people drunk on tiredness talk about. Running through the list of things that we’d need to take, and the places we’d want to visit, the things we’d want to eat.

With one message, that whole dream was shattered.

“he said no”

For months the question had been: “Will Jatm be able to go?”, and now that it’s finally come around, and I’ve already given in the reply slip, all of a sudden, it’s Britt causing the troubles.

I know it isn’t exactly her fault, but she at least could have said earlier on that she might not have been able to go, right? Or spoken to her parents before the letters got handed out, like I did? Who knows, maybe she could have asked them with a little more enthusiasm and optimism? She was super pessimistic, and negative about the whole thing, waiting days to even ask them, and eventually I was doubting whether or not she even wanted to go.

My problem now, is that I might be going to Italy – without her. I have two options, really.

  1. Withdraw myself from the trip, which will probably mean that I have to sit through a lecture from the geography teacher and miss out on the stuff that wil help us understand the lessons
  2. Go through with it, without her, and make some friends that are actually going

However, if you’ve got the main part of my personality from my blog, you can probably tell that I’m terrible at making friends. I’m way too judgemental (I get it from my mother), I’m a pretty bad conversationalist, and just an all-round awkward person. God knows what stereotypes I’ve been stamped with in school either… It probably doesn’t help that the majority of people will have already made their own friends in the last four years anyway… Is it even worth spending about £500 (that we could really do with not spending, if I’m honest) on a trip where I won’t even be with my best friends?

So, I’ll have to decide pretty soon on what I plan on doing, but I was wondering if any of you have any ideas? Have you ever had to deal with something like this before?

BYE! 😀

Just Average Teen Me

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A Little Update On My Life


I’m Just Average Teen Me. It’s been a while since I actually told you guys what in the world is going on with my life, so I thought it would be a nice change to do just that today. As far as planning for this post, or thinking about what I’m going to write, I’ve done zero. Which should make this kind of weird, but hopefully more laid back and chilled out than normal.

Mainly, it’s just been school. As for school though, it’s been fairly straightforward, not too many exams or tests of such. Although now that I mention it, there’s an exam week coming up fairly soon which should be fun… especially with a form teacher that fails to keep us updated on anything.

Friends-wise, I’ve been doing well. For some of you who’ve been here for quite a good while, you’ll know I had a few problems with a certain someone named Regina (by my codenames) and stuff got kinda cray cray. Basically, Regina has been awesome lately, and I really have tried to forget everything that’s happened in the past and move on. Which as difficult as I thought it would be last October, is really easy. She’s been super awesome since about December and yeah everything is gooood! 🙂

As for another aspect of friendship, I’ve been hanging out with my ‘squad’ a lot less since 2016 started. I have mentioned before, but someone I’ve been hanging out with a lot is Brittnay. I eat with her every lunch time, along with her friend – let’s call her Tessa. Hanging out with these guys is a lot more relaxed, because of way less drama! Don’t get me wrong, I still spend time with my squad, and our friendship groups cross over a lot of the time (some days, Penny eats with us and we’re all friends in general). Obviously Bob is still my best friend though… I sound like a 7 year old 😀

Just in case you were interested, I am actually keeping up with my new years resolution of drinking more water, which is quite the achievement! It’s gotten to the point where I don’t dislike water anymore! Tell that to me this time last year and I’d probably mimic vomiting!

A good fraction of my life has been taken up by crushing since that post I did on the topic. I’m not going to go into it, because I’ll sound cheesy and cringey and like a creepy little fangirl but yeah. One dude is from school, the other is a celebrity. The celebrity however, I am rather optimistic about and am quite set on marrying him 😀 ❤

How’s your life going? I’d love to know!

Thank you SO much for reading! Make sure to like and follow if you like my blog and leave any thoughts or suggestions in the comments!

BYE! 😀

Just Average Teen Me

P.S. One of my headphones literally just fell from my ear at random… I’m not even moving. :/

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What is a Friend?


I’m Just Average Teen Me. And since the thought poofed into my mind, I thought I’d talk to you guys about how I see friends and friendships.

First of all, I am extremely frustrated right now, because I spent at least 2 hours making a very pretty sim (game) and then it crashed and didn’t save.

Anyways. Let’s get onto the post.

Personally, I find it very difficult to fully trust someone. But by trust, what do we actually mean? There are some things I would trust people with, but others, I never tell anyone. Some people might think that it’s not good to be so untrusting, and secretive I guess you could say, but before you jump to things like that, it’s important to consider what could have happened before.

Earlier in my life, I’ve gone through things that make it difficult for me to trust people, or completely open up to them. Being betrayed or suddenly ignored for someone who you expected to be friends with your whole life, who you have told countless secrets, is bound to leave some sort of impact on you. Letting out those secrets isn’t as easy when the paranoia of people not liking you is always lurking. What if they’re the same?

I found, a friend isn’t someone that you trust. But if it is, then you’re very lucky. The only person I probably trust is Bob. Mainly because he’s told me secrets and I know I can trust him to keep mine. As for my other friends, it kind of terrifies me sometimes, that the truth will slip out to someone else, and then everyone will know. I guess you could call this thing I have some sort of social anxiety but I live with it.

Some people find that a friend doesn’t have to be someone you have known for a long time, but for me, I never know at what point to call someone a friend. Usually, the people that have stuck by me for the longest prove to be my ‘friends’. Bob. He is the person I have known for the longest, and stayed friends with. But I think what makes him my best friend, is that sometimes, we’re apart for almost a year (at one point it was more than a year) because we go to different schools, but when we get back together, it’s like we never had that gap. No awkward silences. Just crazy intense catching up. And I can completely be myself.

Friends don’t have to be in real life either. Take the blogging world for example, I see all of you guys as friends! You’ve helped me with so much stuff, and I can’t think why I shouldn’t see you as my friends!

What do you think?

Thank you SO much for reading! Make sure to like and follow if you like my blog and leave any thoughts or suggestions in the comments!

BYE! 😀

Just Average Teen Me


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Stereotypes… What’s the point?


I’m Just Average Teen Me. Today my post is going to be about stereotypes. I’ve noticed (well obviously I’m aware of stereotypes) that they are rarely 100% accurate reflections of the people that they describe. So, I thought that I might prove to you all, and just rant at the world about why they aren’t accurate…

So, since I’m a teenager, and I’m guessing that most of you are teenagers too, I’ll talk about them. I’m pretty sure that most people get called a ‘moody teenager’ once they hit 13…. Straight away, there are stereotypes… And it will probably be the same throughout your whole teenage life. I feel like there are groups of stereotypes within the general stereotype of teenagers…. If that makes any sense 😀 .

So, people that are clever, seem to automatically be classed as nerds, uncool and unpopular… Personally, I prefer geek to nerd but they both mean the same sort of thing so meh. My point is, people that are intelligent aren’t always nerds… Sometimes it just comes naturally and they are actually popular, and ‘cool’ within the year group. If not, then they can still have friends….

Next, there are the popular girls. We imagine them as Mean Girls style, strutting down the corridors in short skirts, caked in makeup and constantly gossiping about anyone they can. But really, think. Is there anyone that extreme in your school? I know there isn’t in mine… There are some though, with rolled up skirts that have had billions of boyfriends and whatnot… But they really aren’t as bad as the stereotypes. The extent of them is rolled up skirts, quite dodgy eyebrows and rumours of them ‘doing the do’ when nobody knows if it’s even true… But most of them aren’t all bad… I know quite a few girls with loads of friends that are actually really nice!

And while I’m on popular people, I might as well cover the popular boys. Most people imagine these as chavs, swearing, smokers and wearing hoodies…. When again, not many of them really are. Well there are a few people in my year that think they’re such cool rebels that they should smoke e-cigarettes but that’s all really. Usually, they don’t wear hoodies… It’s usually t-shirts or something. I will admit, a lot of them are quite chav-like, but not in the sense that the word is…. If you didn’t already know, chav stands for council house and violence or something like that… Most of the people who walk around acting cool, with their big caps and baggy trousers have been tagged as living in a council house and being violent. In my opinion, this really isn’t fair, and proves that the stereotype is wrong.

Aside from groups of people, teenagers often get told that they’re always up to no goo by people older than them. Really, only a small group of teens are the ones always getting into actual trouble. Most of them don’t actually do anything…

But my point is, most stereotypes aren’t accurate so why should they exist? Who started them? And why should one age group be looked down on because of a small group within them? I just don’t see the point… I know that there are stereotypes for other groups of people but I felt like since most of the people reading are probably teenage sort of age, I decided to focus on us. What do you think of stereotypes? And what stereotypes annoy you?

Thank you SO much for reading, make sure to like and follow if you like my blog and let me know what your opinion on this sort of topic is in the comments! I’d love to hear them!

Just Average Teen Me

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Let’s Get to Know my Friends


I’m Just Average Teen Me. I’m actually writing this post off my phone so there might be a few typos … My autocorrect is quite unpredictable… 😀 And if you haven’t already guessed, I’m FINALLY doing the TTTS post on Friends! So, I thought I’d tell you all some stuff about my friends. They should all be in my codenames page but there isn’t much info there. So let’s start


If you didn’t already I used to have a weekly blogging feature called Theo Thursdays where I would talk about whether I thought Theo liked me. Turns out he doesn’t … He likes Ashley 😀 She’s very good at giving advice and is very intelligent. I’ve known her since my first year at primary school.


First thing you should probably know about Rachel is that she is obsessed with Glee. I helped get her into it, and she ended up quite obsessed… She’s the kind of person that in a bad situation, she always seems to find something to laugh about, instead of just talk about problems.


Penny is quite dirty minded… But it’s okay. Sometimes it’s actually quite funny 😀 Out of all of ‘the squad’ she is probably the most supportive and gets annoyed when anyone is doing anything mean… Like on Friday. She’s really good at cheering people up and loves music. Like me. And she loves Harry Potter like me too.


Okay, I think we all know a lot of negative things about Regina. But there is a positive side too. If you’re on her good side, then you’ll always have someone to be with. She’ll be by your side whenever you need her. And she also loves YouTube, photography and is quite interested in beauty related stuff.


I will admit, I saved the best til last. This guy has never made me doubt whether he likes me or not. I know he does. And he is always there for me when I need to rant about anything at all. Even if he doesn’t understand any of it, which is most of the time, he still listens and tries to give advice. At the moment, I miss him like crazy because I haven’t seen him since my birthday in March… I’m hoping that I can meet up with him sometime this month. He’s quite crazy, full of energy and worst of all, he goes to a different school than me… I’ve known him for 6 years now, and he is the only person that I’m still friends with from them 6 years ago. I’m pretty sure he’s my soul brother…

Those are my closest friends. My phone is actually really annoying me… I can’t type well and my autocorrect is really dodgy… So, this can be the end of this post. Thank you so much for reading , make sure to like and follow if you like my blog and leave any thoughts or suggestions in the comments below.

Bye! 😀

-Just Average Teen Me